How to give people what they don’t deserve

Today, I wanted to share a personal story that happened to me this past Easter with hopes that it will inspire you and give you something to think about. This past Easter was very different with the COVID-19 Pandemic, being quarantined and dealing with so many changes and adjustments all at once. Unfortunately this past Easter my husband and I had a bit of a disagreement and there was much tension and anger. Now don’t get me wrong, we are not always going to agree on things but this argument took me back a little bit because there was so much tension, anger and frustration.
Even though we were able to come to a resolution and talk things through I still continued to ponder and reflect on why I was so frustrated, angry and upset. After having my devotion the next morning before doing our LIVE workout at Ladies Super Fitness it hit me like a ton of bricks- I have not been giving grace…
Ever think about the definition of grace?
For me, I know that it is a free gift from God and it is receiving the things you did not earn or deserve. And with both our gyms being closed since March 17th, almost a month later I realized I was creating expectations and demands that no-one can achieve, especially not now. I found myself thinking and saying things like, “It should not be this way..” “This is not right…”
And right before our LIVE workout it hit me and I found myself thinking, “Wow I have been really hard on my husband and lately have been having these unreasonable expectations,” not realizing that the same way I am going through all these emotions, fears and changes, so is he. All of us are going through this together. We are all trying to navigate these new waters. Not only are they new but they are HOT. I realized that I have not been seeking to understand him and his feelings.
Grace is something that has been give to me unearned. It is love that I have received, it is forgiveness that I have received, it is acceptance that I have received, insight, direction…and I honestly don’t even deserve it all. I have definitely not been perfect.
Who is perfect? We have all had a lapse in judgement. We have all made mistakes. And this time of tension, negativity, and uncertainty does not always bring out the best in people. Even though our initial reaction may not be the best we can us this time to help us grow.
In closing, are you giving yourself grace? Were you working on something during this time? A new project? Business venture? Going back to school? Fitness routine? New way of eating? And with everything else going, have you found yourself being pretty hard on yourself? Have you allowed yourself to process these emotions and communicate with someone to help you along the way?
Our motto for our company, TMC, is, “Serving those who serve others.” We try our best to put others ahead of ourselves. This can be our staff, our members, our community, etc..
In light of today’s topic, is there someone you can share the gift of grace with? Spouse? Kids? Unemployment representative? Landlord? Business partner?
We are all growing in different ways and at a different pace. Understanding and remembering this can help us give grace over the grind of life .
I would love to hear your thoughts below!

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